This is usually a rather festive time for many. But, for quite a few, there is a void this time of year. My heart aches for those who have even the slightest hollow in their heart this season. Many have loved ones—parents, siblings, relatives, and friends—who will be missed. Some had lived long and full lives. For these we celebrate with a mixed tear. Some left us, what we believe, before their time. Such loss is not without some selfishness, as we are the ones who feel the loss. The season, however, I have a tremendous compassion for friends who have lost children. I can only imagine the hurt they feel and know that it is a wound that will never heal. And, honestly, I know that there is nothing I can say or do that will help. I never feel more helpless than when I consider my friends. No amount of love can replace the love that was lost. All I can do is love the best I know how and hold my own children just a bit more tightly. All I or any of us can do is be grateful for the moment we have.
Carpe momento!
If you are so inclined, give a gift to help prevent such loss for future families. I have seen too many families face the battle with cancer in their precious children, so my heart tends there. If you have nowhere to give, consider giving in memory of Joey and Christopher:
http://www.christopher-court.org/