I wrote these words for my son as we were approaching his birth. They are from Lessons for Liam:
“You will spend your life wanting to be loved. In many cases, this will come easy. When it comes to matters of the heart, however, love does not come easy. It requires effort on your part—effort that is well worth it.
Don’t be in a rush to fall in love. Love will come when it is ready. In the meantime, master the art of making love.
The phrase, “making love” is most often associated with the act of sexual intercourse. This is not at all what I am referring to. Rather, I mean that you should act toward others in such a way that a loving relationship naturally develops. Love is an act of giving, not receiving. For most, sex is a matter of self-gratification. Perhaps the English language would be more accurate if it were to use the phrase “getting love” when referring to sex. Proper “love-making,” however, necessitates that you put the needs of the other ahead of self. Love should be selfless. This is why it requires so much work.”
May we give love more than we seek it.
Carpe momento!