The cost of dreaming.

“We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort.”—Jesse Owens

Dreams are unrealized opportunities. Opportunity costs—meaning that to capitalize on opportunity we have to sacrifice. Dreams require that we question what is most important—what we want or what we have. The latter is comfort. The former is sometimes painful.

Sometimes, when we don’t have what we want, we just don’t want it bad enough. Sometimes we are too comfortable to move into the uncomfortable.

What are we willing to do (or not do) to make our dreams reality?

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

Begin again.

“Be your best today” is a statement about the present—not the past. Yesterday was. Today is. Carpe momento.

I prefer to consider the immediate present rather than more extended present (i.e., carpe momento rather than carpe diem). As new beginning need not be delayed. Growth and change can begin immediately and failings and be quickly left behind.

Spiritual, Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Social growth (“well-centered fitness”) is a process of personal growth that is rarely linear. In reality, “new beginnings” are less of beginnings and more of learning opportunities and stimuli for growth.

Yesterday was what it was. Learn from it. Grow from it. Let it go.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

Weakness are Opportunities.

We completed a “SWOT” analysis for my work the other day. These ask us to list Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats. My wife, a former Human Resources VP, referred me to the “SOAR” analysis—Strengths, Opportunities, Aspirations, and Results. I like this much better. I prefer to focus on Opportunities (learning a “have” to “get” mentality from my friend, Coach Andy Lausier). Also, from a diplomatic standpoint, I found myself preferring to phase otherwise Weaknesses as Opportunities as to not stir up defensiveness among colleagues. Above anything, weaknesses really are just opportunities to grow.

Spiritually, Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally, and/or Socially, we are not “weak.” We have simply not yet achieved our full potential. Strengths and Opportunities merely reflect our imbalances. Aspirations, however, reflect our desire to grow—to be better tomorrow. Results define our goals. (Remember: Goals must be Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Reasonable*, and include a Timeline.)

Our daily growth plan should allow space (e.g., in our morning journaling) for a SOAR analysis. We should affirm our strengths, recognize the opportunities presented by the day ahead, aspire to be better today than we were yesterday, and set measurable goals that exceed the expectations of others.

There are no weaknesses. Only opportunities. Weakness implies “Can’t.” Opportunities expects “Can.”

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

*Coyte Cooper suggests they should be (un)reasonable by ordinary standards. I agree.

Vision Quest.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”—Melody Beattie

Sometimes, I have a plan to write something and I come across an inspiration that redirects my thinking. I consider this as an opportunity for the soul to speak.

I had other thoughts in my head about vision, and I came across the above quote. (Personally, I might substitute “gratitude” with “grattitude”, but otherwise this is a great thought for the day.) It shifted my attitude somewhat (hence, “grattitude”).

It may not be possible to move forward with a vision for tomorrow without grattitude. Grattitude allows us to let go of the past and to move forward into an unknown. Grattitude lends itself to the growth mindset. Without it, we remain stagnant.

A vision for tomorrow requires that we permit ourselves to let go of who we were/are to become something greater. It is not that what we were was not good. It is simply accepting that our Purpose is to grow—to expand our opportunities.

Grattitude is not only for what was or is. It is for what will be. Grattitude is for the opportunities (and the challenges) that lie ahead.

Growth does not occur without stress. Intense pressures turn coal into diamond. Friction polishes gemstones. The intense heat of the crucible extracts metals from ore. Muscle and cardiorespiratory function adapts to the overload of exercise. Knowledge grows from studying the unknown. Growth is never comfortable.

Vision sets the goal. Vision sees what can be. It begins, however, with gratitude (or grattitude).

Don’t miss the opportunity because you are holding on to the past and the present.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

Powerball.

“We spend our lives, all of us, waiting for the great day, the great battle, or the deed of power. But that external consummation is not given to many: nor is it necessary. So long as our being is tensed, directed with passion, towards that which is the spirit of all things, then that spirit will emerge from our own hidden, nameless effort.”—Pierre Tielhard de Chardin

Of course, I didn’t win the big Powerball jackpot this week. It wasn’t to be my “great day.” Honestly, that is okay. (It would have been nice, but….) I continue to pursue my Purpose—which, for the time, appears to be teaching.

It is easy to get lost in grand desires and a path of our own plans. The Universe, however, has greater plans for us. We must direct out efforts toward this Purpose. It is not as “insignificant” as we perceive. Indeed, it far exceeds our perceptions. de Chardin has stated it so eloquently—” So long as our being is tensed, directed with passion, towards that which is the spirit of all things, then that spirit will emerge from our own hidden, nameless effort.” Let the soul speak and direct your course. The result is the (extra)ordinary.

Be you best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

Raise your BMI?

Body mass index (BMI) is one’s weight in kilograms (2.2 kg per pound) divided by the height in meters-squared (1 meter = 39.37 inches). It is a measure that is often used to define health and body fat. It is also a measure that can be quite deceptive on paper—without knowing the individual.

A BMI of ≥30 kg·m2 is classified as obese.

A BMI of ≥25 kg·m2 is defined as the threshold for “overfat”, and a lower BMI is considered “healthy.” But wait a second….

Muscle is denser than fat. Excess muscle is healthier than excess fat. Conversely, under-muscled and under-fat is also unhealthy. So, BMI is meaningless without an understanding of body composition. Someone with a BMI of 20 kg·m2, for example, may have a high percent-bodyfat or they may be a very lean and moderately muscled athlete. Likewise, someone in the range of 25-30 kg·m2 may be over-fat or well-muscled (or somewhere in-between).

I will consistently argue that more muscle is always better—male or female. For some, this may mean an increase in BMI. What??! It may even mean moving into a category of “over-fat.”

Let’s look at this with some easy numbers: 220 lb (100 kg) and 78.75 inches (2 m). This individual has a BMI of 25 kg·m2. At 20% body fat (BF), the lean body weight is 176 lb. At a healthier 10% BF, the lean body weight increases to 198 lb (i.e., a 12 lb gain of muscle and loss of fat). BMI? Unchanged. Now suppose our subject gains 10 lb of muscle without losing any body fat (now 230 lb). The body composition improves to 19.1% BF (not a tremendous improvement, but likely a much-improved appearance). BMI, however, is now 26.1 kg·m2. More unhealthy? Not likely. Indeed, with more muscle mass the subject is now able to do more physical activity and will be on a path to possibly getting healthier. (And, at a higher body weight, will actually be able to eat more healthy food to maintain the weight!) More muscle is more metabolic. Over time, it will actually be easier to lose body fat.

What is one is at a higher BMI and over-fat. Shouldn’t they focus on caloric restriction and cardio to “burn” more calories and thereby lose fat? Caloric restriction? Yes. Cardio? Well, some. Muscle strengthening exercise, however, should not be neglected. Perhaps, the scale will not drop as quickly (though it could quite likely drop faster as the metabolism steadily increases to burn more fat rather than slowing to protect fat stores), but the change in appearance and health will be more dramatic.

For many, the goal of exercise might be to improve appearance. Ideally, though, the goal should be better health and longevity. The goal should be to be able to do more—not less—as we age. The goal should be to avoid hospitals and debilitating medical conditions. Numbers like body weight, BMI, waist circumference, and percent body fat are really just number that may or may not reflect one’s health. What is most important is that we are able to live our years well. Health and physical activity need not decline as we age. At the very least we should seek to slow the natural decline that is perceived to be caused by aging (which, in fact, is more a reflection of decreased physical activity—and poor diet). It is great to be able to say, “I weight the same as I did in high school,” but the mirror and a body composition test might tell a different tale.

There is no need to train like a bodybuilder, but a more hypertrophic approach to exercise may be warranted for better long-term health. Don’t be afraid to have a higher BMI, if it means you have gained muscle mass and strength. Focus on being healthier and increasingly more active.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

Begin to change the world.

”Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”—Leo Tolstoy

We hear a lot these days about changing the world. We hear, however, little focus on personal change. Perhaps, because we have grown sensitive (or made to feel sensitive) to discussing personal responsibility. It is safer to think in global terms than to address the fact that we all contribute to the world as it is. The reality is that the world needs changing, and change must come from personal growth—Spiritual, Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Social growth.

We live in a Commons (as in “The Tragedy of the Commons” by Garrett Hardin) where the impact of the individual is often disregarded. We think that what we do as individuals has no impact—that change has to come in the form of legislation. As such, we abdicate our freedoms out of ignorance, fear, weakness, and/or laziness. In the end, the world is often no better for it. As such, the world is better only for those to whom we give power.

We don’t need to change the world. We need to change ourselves. We need to consider our personal effect on the world. It is greater than we think. It is even greater when the desire to grow and to change becomes universal.

Grand change (e.g., global change) is overwhelming. Personal change is easy—when the desire is present.

Baby steps…. We can learn a lot from Bob Wiley (What About Bob?). Baby steps to change. Small (individual) choices add up quickly. Any of the host of global problems can be changed by small personal choices. We just have to use our freedom to choose them. We have to be allowed our freedom to choose.

The tragedy of the Commons is that we do not respect our freedoms. We let the power of a few decide our world for us. As such, we grow weaker Spiritually, Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally, and Socially. In the end, we get the world we are told we want.

I believe human have been designed to evolve as an increasingly complex and unified species. We are intended to grow individually and, thereby, collectively. It is only through such individual growth that we can grow collectively. Personal change is intended to be other-centered change rather than self-centered change. One who thinks of changing oneself for the sake of others can indeed change the world.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

Future Self.

I frequently see discussions about “What advice would you give to your younger-self?” These are sometimes coupled with the question of “If you could go back in time and change one thing in your life, what would you change?” The reality is that you can’t. You have to live with your past. Above all, you past has shaped your current life. Of what benefit is it to think about how things might be different.

I get that the question, “What advice would you give to your younger-self?”, is really (possibly) about what advice would you give to someone in your circumstances today. Which, if that is the question, ask it as such. But a “you” today would be in different circumstances—and wouldn’t be “you.” My son is 16. In many ways we are similar. In more ways we are different. If for me when I was 16—in 1979—cannot compare to being 16 in 2021.

The question we really should be asking ourselves is “Who do you want your future self to be?”

We can’t live in regret or a What if…? scenario of the past. We can only live in the moment with aspirations for a better next moment.

So, maybe a better question than “What advice would you give to your younger self?” is “What advice would your older-self give you today?”

Heed future self’s advice.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!

“Back in shape”—again?

“If we are not in the shape we want to be in, then do something to get back on track and stay on track.  If we are in shape, we just need to keep doing what we are doing.  Indeed, maintenance is actually easier than getting into shape.  Getting in shape—e.g., improving the functioning of a body system or improving one’s physical appearance—requires overload (i.e., stressing the body system to a level greater than that to which it is accustomed).  Maintaining requires little more than continuing with what is working—that is, maintenance exercise which requires less effort than it takes to get into ‘shape’.”

Today, I want to revisit a post from four years ago (almost to the day; September 25, 2017) that was inspired by a comment by a friend, Chris, who said, “I wish I was as fat as I was the first time I thought I was fat.” Judging by recent statistics suggesting that the average American has gained 29 pounds during COVID-19, it is likely that many of us are feeling this way. Perhaps, we are seeing this gain as the clicking upward of the rollercoaster before the big drop. The thing about rollercoasters is that they do drop, but every drop is followed by another climb. In case, the ride never ends. In the case of body fat, the average elevation of the ride most often climbs progressively. We don’t have to be unreasonable. Our goal need only be to return to a healthy body composition and sustainable level of fitness. “Back in shape” need not (should not) be our “glory days” of high school or college.

COVID-19 has been an excuse. Aging has been an excuse. Time has been an excuse. Work has been an excuse. Having kids…. The list can go on. The excuses have to end. Our health depends on it. There is a tremendous price tag on not addressing personal and community health. Declining fitness levels have revealed a stress on the health care system (though we are reluctant to discuss it publicly), yet preventative care is so much cheaper and life-fulfilling (in addition to life-saving).

Change does not have to occur on a grand scale to be effective. Small, sustainable changes are cumulative. Move a little be more today than you did yesterday. Change one bad habit at a time. Move daily toward a healthier diet. Baby steps. There is always still time to get healthier. Start today.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!!

Virtue-centered v. other-centered.

“Virtue signaling” (“an attempt to show other people that you are a good person, for example by expressing opinions that will be acceptable to them, especially on social media [Cambridge Dictionary] is a phrase I have often heard over the last couple of years. I believe, for the most part, we are all guilty of it. After all, if we express that we don’t participate, are we not participating. I am in academia, so I see it often—too often.

Considering how I am increasingly identified as less-good because I don’t often share the same narrative as colleagues, I have been reflective and, frankly, more determined in my ways. I try to be growth-oriented. I have written and attempted to express many times the feelings I have about labels and how divisive they tend to be. It is not a popular opinion in our society today, but it is where I stand. Along with labels comes discussion about bias. Of course, with discussion bias comes virtue signaling.

We all have bias. I certainly do—I won’t deny it. If bias is intentional (i.e., conscious), then it is an expression of prejudice. I prefer to look at bias as ignorance—as an opportunity to grow. After all, most bias is unintentional.

In my opinion, labeling creates an environment for virtue signaling. It creates an us v. them atmosphere. It creates and opportunity to identify another’s bias while ignoring one’s own (or worse, trumpeting one’s ‘lack’ of bias).

I have for some time been striving to become what I identify as “other-centered”—a phrase I have adopted from the likes of Parker J. Palmer. As such I am learning (and trying to effectively practice) the approach of creating space for the soul to speak. Thus, I am considering (or am opening myself to consider) the individual, not as a member of a group, but as a one among the whole. I am trying to look beyond the labels and to listen to the soul. I think of the soul as what makes us uniquely human and unique humans. Labels and categorizing people ignores this uniqueness. I believe this separates the Spiritual from the Physical in quite destructive ways.

The phrase “virtue-centered” came to mind this morning. (I am sure that this is not an original concept.) I see it as a well-meaning, but self-centered, effort to do good. I would have to admit that writing on this topic today is, in itself, virtue-centered—or certainly viewed by some to be. Undoubtedly, we all want to be perceived as good. We care about what others think. So, we are beginning from a point of virtue-centeredness. Our goal, however, should not be to do good for the sake of being perceived as good. Rather, we must seek to do good for the sake of the good. This is the very foundation of every major religion, though I would be quick to suggest that it is not the practice per se of every major religion. In Christianity, for example, we can see this play out in the discussions of faith v. works. Did Christ die for the sake of our salvation or as an example of our salvation? This is a question that I will leave open.

When we are virtue-centered, we are constantly having to prove our goodness. To prove we are good there has to be some others that are labeled as “bad.” Us v. Them. Virtue-centeredness invariably leads to division.

Other-centeredness, on the other hand, favors unity. It reflects the complex unity to which man is evolving (per the likes of Pierre Teilhard Chardin and others). In this regard, virtue-centeredness is a good thing, as it is likely a stage in our ever-evolving consciousness. It is suggestive of the friction that often develops on the fault line of change.

It is inevitable that we will experience conflict as we move toward greater unity. It is inevitable (in my opinion) that the tendency to label and divide is going to reveal its own futility. Ultimately, we will see the unique Purpose that each fulfills in the greater Whole.

Each of us is far too complex (and valuable) to be identified by even a handful of labels. We do good to understand others on the basis of these labels, but we do better as we seek to understand the complexity of the individual. We must, however, progress beyond labels to ever-increasing complexity and unity of Purpose.

Be your best today; be better tomorrow.

Carpe momento!